Welcome mhott ,
ma'am i'll explain what i do here , i've done this with many ladies including my daughters
we attend a licenced range that will hire you a range of guns
the instructor or myself will teach the lady the basic of guns and handling and start them on something like a .22 and work through to a calibre thats a bit much and then go back to were they where comfortable
i like to find what the shooter thinks is comfortable with
then try differing model in that caliber
that way they
1 get the most power they can handle with ease and assurity
2 get good practise and a gun they can practise with alone
3 most important of all
be comfortable with their own choice
too much gun can put people off, so its very important to find what suits you , and not some gun sales person would like to sell you
if you have a friend who you can shoot with even better as this makes it a social activity and thats the best side of shooting , catching up with other like minded folks and learning from each other and enjoying your new hobby
I wish you the best in your search
cheers and good luck
1 daughter ended up with a .380 the other a .22 lr , every one is different , find what YOU like and exposure to as many as you can try is the only way to know for sure
