Re: 9mm vs 38acp
If one is having recoil problems with a 38 spl they need another grip or the gun just doesn't fit them. I don't even shoot 38 spl ammo in my 357mag pistols. I have 9mm pistols that fill the same role. There is a reason not many 9mm revolvers are made. A 38 spl fills the same role. If you want a 9mm buy a semi-auto. In the long run you will be much happier.
There is a 38acp that went all but extinct with the introduction of the 1911. The 38 acp just couldn't find a niche. It didn't have the heft of the 45 acp and the 38 spl was a perfect mate to the 357 making it much easier to manufacture both weapons and ammo.