Re: 9mm vs 38acp
38 special.. kick? Hmm.. mine has about zero kick - hardly even notice that I fired something. However, I do NOT use +p ammo in my .38 - it is an old pistol from the 1960's and isn't really designed for +p ammo. It does shoot fine though and I prefer it's single action to it's double action. I bought it missing the cylinder lock ball and with a damaged cylinder lock spring then, found the parts from a place in Georgia and repaired it.
9mm is likely to have more kick than standard .38 with the exception of +p.
Personally, I'm trying to buy a Bernardelli .380 - not sure I'll be able to get it, but I'm willing to pay a reasonable price for it.