OK, one very important question: what does your wife
want? I don't mean to be flip here, and hopefully you are including her in the decision. But a woman has smaller hands, and she really needs to hold (and if possible, shoot) as many different weapons as possible before you make a final decision. Trigger pull will be an important issue; at least, it is for me. My hands are very small, and if the gun has a very heavy pull, I simply don't have enough leverage in my fingers to make a smooth pull and still keep the gun on target.
Sorry to butt in. Y'all carry on with your discussion.