Originally Posted by sub-moa
I Read this story and it occured to me that this can work both ways; Today is my Dad's birthday, and when I was growing up my dad worked two jobs to make sure I had all he thought I needed to be happy. He was a good man and a good father. He passed away last year at 87 and I miss him a lot. If there are any young dads following TFF- know this, If I could change one thing growing up I would have my dad quit one of the jobs and take me fishing or shooting more often. The things he bought that he thought I needed to be happy were'nt worth missing the time with him.
Originally Posted by ampaterry
Wise words, sub-moa.
I guy has a very natural DRIVE to support his family as well as he can; it is built right into him, and can make one a work-a-holic VERY easily.
On the other end of the spectrum, we have parents that will do nothing at all for their families.
The proper course, as in so many things, lies in the middle ground -
One of my biggest regrets I'm currently living with is my inability to spend time actually doing stuff with my kids.
My wife & I worked trying become more financially secure & stable in our relationship. When we thought we were there, we started a family. Then two years after our first child was born I lost almost everything. I even "almost" lost my life to illness.
Today, I'm unable to do all the quality things other husbands & dads do with their families. I can't play ball, go to daddy/daughter dances or soccer games. I can hardly even get up & attend church on some days.
In our 12+ years as parents, we have only been able to go on "ONE" family vacation. We've made reservations on several. But, my health seems to cause us to cancel them because it's just to painful for me to travel much.
If I had it to do over again, I would start a family sooner. The one lesson I've learned is there is NEVER the "right" time for anything. 24hrs a day is all we get and we never know when we may not get that.