"Instructional People"

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Originally Posted by Crpdeth

And after saying this, you still dont realize that in having to learn not to "place an implied you dummy" at the end of a sentance, that you are already 'speaking down' to your friends/family?

Why "get preachy" to start with? If people want to be preached at, they go to church and if they want your opinions they will ask you for them.

Crpdeth

I had some response to this, but encountered a problem posting the response, and by the time I'd gotten back to it, it was gone. And now I have no idea what I was going to say. Must have been important.

[Crpdeth]

I'm sure it'll come to you...We have nothing but time.


Crpdeth

[Crpdeth]

A little more than a year has passed since the start of this thread and I have to re-visit it because things are working out really nicely.

I suppose the only real thing I have done differently is to become more vocal, still always in a light hearted, joking manner, but instead of waiting until I've "had enough" or allowing things to "bottle up" I will simply reply to each and every "instructional comment" negatively.... For example, while helping my friend load something into a truck several months ago, as I approached the truck, he says "Okay now set your end on the tailgate and jump into the truck bed" I just laughed and responded "Hey %!#&!, I got this end, you just worry about your end or you can have 'em both!" .

Somehow, I think this constant response has made them realize how often they bark orders and also perhaps get the idea that it is growing old.

Anyway, I am proud to say that it is working well, because these guys mean a lot to me.