I too, feel your pain. I have had a job since I was 15 years old, of one sort or another, and I was recently laid off at a place where I had worked for 13 years in a pretty high position, very loyal service, and contrbutions that saved the company millions of dollars. In that 13 years, I probably actually gave over 20 years of my work time and life to the company. I really feel for all of the other employess and their families as well. They are closing where I worked, and starting a new operation in China.
I'll let you figure out how to work on your weight for what you think is best for you. However, there are things you can do during this time of unemployment. Just remember, you can do something constructive every day to benefit yourself or others, if you really want to. In fact, to get better, you have to.
1) Set up a routine, of some kind, for each and every one of your days (other than your job search). You need to have a reason to get up out and of bed every day. Sleeping in, and letting depression get the better of you, will hurt your mind, body, and spirit. Whatever you do, don't feel like a failure, or less of less of a man, because you don't have a job. A part of this routine can be exercise (even if it is just going out for a walk). Make a list of things you want to do to improve yourself. Maybe it is reading, maybe a hobby, maybe figuring out how to work out that forgiveness issue you mentioned on another post. You need to figure out how to get your physical, mental, and spirtual well being balanced.
2) This can be a blessing. When you have a job, usually you are so focussed on your job, and your obligations, that you didn't take the time to figure out what it is that you really want to do and enjoy. If you don't like yourself, no one else is going to either. Take the time to figure out what it is that you are good at and really enjoy. Then start researching what it would take to make a possible career move into something new. Maybe you want to go back to school. I am strongly looking into moving into the medical field now.
3) If you had a 401K, or a retirement plan, many times an employer will only give you "x" number of days(usually 30-90 days) to roll your money over into a different account, or the money stays in the account it was in, and you have nothing to say about it. Consider rolling it over into an account that you can control.
4) Get all of your paperwork in order (for example, do you have a will, and is it up to date?). If you have files, get them all organized and cleaned up. Do a home inventory for your insurance if you haven't had the time to do it yet in your life.
5) Get the place where you live fixed up on what you can afford. Feeling good about where you live helps, and gives you something to do. If you are married, get out that "honey do" list, and start to get some of them done, and help out around the house. Having the home environment improve, and seeing things kept clean will, really helps out the relationship if this is something you didn't do much before. I easily made a list of over 100 things that I could do, and was amazed at how much I let some things slip around the house, and in my personal health. Make sure to some little "something special" once in awhile for your significant other (if you have one). Thinking about what you can do to brighten up someone elses day will make you feel better about yourself, and be a much easier person to like, and to live with. There is nothing more unattractive than a negative attitude, so try and stay positive, and make positives. If not for yourself, then for someone else.
6) Review all of your insurance, and see if you can reduce the costs in anyway. For example, do you still pay for more miles of driving to work rate, or can you reduce that now. Can you increase deductable amounts. Do this with all of your current costs (do you really need cable or direct TV?, do you really need all the magazines you may get?, do you have a home phone and a cell phone-do you need both? Can you get your property tax lowered, etc. Do you need to get life insurance for yourself, now that you don't have an employer? If you smoke, can you quit? Non-smokers pay much lower rates by three to four fold.
7) Consider volunteering some of your time. Helping out others, and seeing the problems they have besides yourself, can help give you a good feeling about yourself. You can help out your neighborhood by helping to set up a neighborhood watch. You can see if your church or school need any help. Being able to contribute really helps you feel better about yourself.
8) Look at your closet, garage, etc. Do you have things you can sell or need to get rid of to get the place shaped up? This is a good way to get some cash as well. Do you have clothes that may help somebody else out?
9) Friends and family. If you have friends or family that you get along with, make sure to schedule some time to spend with them to have some fun. You don't have to be in this situation alone. Can any of them use your help, or any of their kids? Do you have any old friends that you haven't seen for awhile that it would be great to see again? They would probably love to hear from you.
10) The last thing is work related. Besides getting a good resume updated, getting references lined up, and practicing for interview questions (those to answer, those to ask), the last thing is a hard thing to do. Especially so, if you have pride. 80% of the jobs that people get after losing a job are from references or networking. That means contacting all of the people you have met or been exposed to, and letting them know of your situation, and seeing if any leads or new contacts can be made. Sometimes, it is just setting up an appointment with someone, not to ask for a job, but to research their company and industry, and giving you the chance to be a person, face-to-face, instead of just another resume out of a thousand. You would really be amazed at what might actually exist out there that you didn't know about or ever consider. New opportunities gives you hope and a purpose.
I really wish you health and happiness for yourself and your loved ones! Not having a job SUCKS-no doubt about it! You just have to make the best out of a bad situation, and turn negatives into positives. This starts with your attitude about yourself and your situation. Just remember, you are your best friend, or your worst enemy. It is up to you. GOOD LUCK!
If all else fails, maybe you put on a revealing outfit and pose with some guns too(hotmanboobs.com)
If you don't lose weight, at lease the others looking at the picture can...just kidding.