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Nut Behind the Gun · 07-21-2012, 01:29 PM

Ok me and this girls beens talking and we like each other well her mom thinks im a bad kid im NOT.

HELP

gvw3 · 07-21-2012, 01:37 PM

She probably thinks all the guys are bad for her daughter. Try to get along with her. She most likely will never like you but that will make the girl only like you more.

terryu1 · 07-21-2012, 01:38 PM

could be a long road but wita wortht while end. Main thing to remember is not to take it pesonally and get negative. Stay positive and make it your goal to prove her wrong. Find out what she likes and use it. ALL women like flowers. Get some even from grocery store or somewhere similar. No need to spend a ton of money. Its the thought. Go slow, stay positive and do not get mad, and be patient. It will not happen overnight.

mjp28 · 07-21-2012, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by terryu1

could be a long road but wita wortht while end. Main thing to remember is not to take it pesonally and get negative. Stay positive and make it your goal to prove her wrong. Find out what she likes and use it. ALL women like flowers. Get some even from grocery store or somewhere similar. No need to spend a ton of money. Its the thought. Go slow, stay positive and do not get mad, and be patient. It will not happen overnight.

Good advice.

Talk nice, be nice and gradually it might work out.

dad2thebone · 07-21-2012, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by mjp28

Good advice.

Talk nice, be nice and gradually it might work out.

Good advice. take it and use it and hope

stumpjumper · 07-21-2012, 04:03 PM

better than her dad not liking you. be nice, open the car door for your girl when you pick her up. you know mom's gonna be ;looking out the window.

Nut Behind the Gun · 07-21-2012, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by stumpjumper

better than her dad not liking you. be nice, open the car door for your girl when you pick her up. you know mom's gonna be ;looking out the window.

Thanks

glens67 · 07-21-2012, 06:31 PM

Take a good look at your self in the mirror. Hat on backwards, and Pants/Shorts pulled half way down your butt. Do you drive a Van, with a bumper sticker, "If this Van's Rockin Don't bother Knocking". Do you drive one of those Import Cars with a Fart Can Muffler? If you can answer No then things are looking Good.. If yes to those above then GOOD LUCK PERIOD...

carver · 07-21-2012, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Nut Behind the Gun

Ok me and this girls beens talking and we like each other well her mom thinks im a bad kid im NOT.

HELP

Can you tell us why she thinks this?

CCHolderinMaine · 07-21-2012, 07:07 PM

If you are a good person than that will be evident by your actions. The best way to prove to another that you're a "good" person is to be one.

Nut Behind the Gun · 07-21-2012, 10:28 PM

i dont know

jack404 · 07-21-2012, 10:38 PM

as a parent of daughters ( a scary one at that at the time ) its a protection thing , no-one is good enough and as a male myself , i know what young guys think of and act like ..

her mother probably remembers too and we all want better for our kids than ourselves

want to get her onside ?

try this , my daughter husband did it to me

he asked ," you dont like me much do you "

i replied i only like folks who can take care of themselves and others

he state d he could do that , but seeing he was so young he could always use some pointers

Bingo , sold ... I'm a grandfather nowdays ...

do similar find out what the deal is and ask them to advise you , once someone advises you they tend to lean towards you more

its a psych thing

good luck

you go to church ??

take your GF ...

make sure its good from the start ..

Nut Behind the Gun · 07-22-2012, 10:10 AM

smart jack

geds · 07-22-2012, 03:19 PM

As a father of a daughter - the biggest thing with getting under my skin is when the young man ignores me and my wife. He should go out of his way to greet us when he comes into our house to court our daughter. He doesn't have to like us, but he darn sure should show us respect!

And contrary to many young men's opinions, the courting process and the first move in the selling process begins with the young man. As a parent, I don't have to like him and I can make life difficult for him. It it is his best interest to sell himself to us.....

firefighter1635 · 07-22-2012, 03:55 PM

Some very good advice here. As a father of a female in college I’ll jump in a bit

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I'll never forget my daughter’s first "serious" relationship. I put quotes around serious because they think all of them are serious at the age of sixteen. This boy in her class was putting flowers on her car in the middle of the night for her to find in the morning as she went out to go to school, sweet huh? He finally got the nerve to ask her out. So she tells me and my response was I will meet him before he takes you out.

So one Friday afternoon I hear this horrid sound coming from the driveway. It was the boy in his riced out civic. He comes to the door, my daughter let him in to introduce him to me and I see baggy pants practically around his ankles and ball hat turned sideways. My wife instantly went into damage control mode, she knew what was coming.

We excused ourselves from the ladies to talk out in the garage. Basically I asked him WTF he was thinking coming to my house to pick up my daughter looking like that. I forgave him for his appearance but let him know it wasn't welcome in my house. We had a good talk IMO, I told him what I expected out of any young man that wanted to date my daughter and finished by telling him if he hurt my baby I’d kill him. The wife said I was too abrupt and almost made the boy pee his pants but he knew where I stood.

Fast-forward a couple months later. The boy was well groomed and well dressed every time he came to the house. He was very polite to the wife and me.

One night I couldn't sleep and was in the garage when I hear his car pull up to drop off my daughter. I started hearing all kinds of screaming and commotion. I look out the window to see him in her face hollering at her. I grabbed the shotgun and continued to watch. Around five minutes into this he rears back with his fist at her. That’s when I stepped out of the garage, racked the action on my shotgun, which made the both of them stop hollering and placed the muzzle under his chin. I asked him if he remembered the conversation we had a couple months ago. He replied yes sir and I asked him if he thought I was bluffing. He said no Sir and got in his car and left.

There is a bit more to the story but that's the basics of it. So my advice to you would be to treat the girl like she's a queen, respect her parents, and have an appearance about yourself that personifies that and never, never, I mean NEVER take anything her parents say for granted.

howlnmad · 07-22-2012, 04:06 PM

I have 3 daughters and I hate all guys from the start. Don't get super offended and try to smooze her all at once. Just be yourself and proove her wrong.
Be polite, be a gentlemen and do what's right. Don't try to impress her with BS, it don't fly. If you really like this young lady........ you'll know what to do.
If dad ois cleaning a gun or loading mags when you come to the door........... don't just assume that it's a mind game. I know, I've been there and have actually run one out that thought it was. Tried to super impress me with his part time military ([I am in NO WAY selling the Air National Gaurd short) position and then told my daughter to hurry up and get her ass in the car. I told him that he might wanna hurry hurry up and get his out the door and that she'd be staying here. PERIOD!

mogunner · 07-22-2012, 04:56 PM

My youngest kid is a girl, she was always embarrassed by my doing this but I took a list of "Ten rules to dating my daughter" off the internet and whenever she started dating a boy I had to meet him, and I handed him a copy of them. Since I open carry around the house from the time I get up to the time I lay down, it's always something that they notice right off! If he lasts past the first date, the next time he comes to pick her up I'll usually be cleaning the Saiga, with a 30 round magazine lying next to me. They pretty much pick up on my feelings right away. She has one now that's stuck around for the past two years, I'm going to take him out shooting here soon as it cools off a bit and let her outshoot him and see how he reacts to that...

gun-nut · 07-22-2012, 06:16 PM

I dont have any kids, but i will say i ran into them kind of moms before. Just show RESPECT! It will take time trust me, even after the girl and i broke it off we are still friends. To this day her mom will tolerat me hanging out but still dont care for me but has said that i do and did show respect and thats one thing she cant take from me. Now this was over 10 years ago when this took place so dont get your hopes to high that she will come around, because she my never.

76Highboy · 07-22-2012, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by geds

As a father of a daughter - the biggest thing with getting under my skin is when the young man ignores me and my wife. He should go out of his way to greet us when he comes into our house to court our daughter. He doesn't have to like us, but he darn sure should show us respect!

And contrary to many young men's opinions, the courting process and the first move in the selling process begins with the young man. As a parent, I don't have to like him and I can make life difficult for him. It it is his best interest to sell himself to us.....

That is well said IMO.

I remember that one boy came over and was leaning on my daughters car. He was all prepped with his shades on and there were about 4 or 5 other guys standing around him with my daughter present. All the boys were pretty much blue jeans and cowboy boots but Romeo was all jazzed up with his hair all perfect and his pants down to his butt and the gangster boy thing happening. I came out to meet the boys and when my daughter introduced me to them they were very polite until she introduced me to Romeo. As soon as she introduced us he says "Yo dude" out of the side of his head and would not give me the time of day. Quicker then a fart can jump out of a frying pan I confronted him military style and gave him a speech about respecting elders, then I kicked him of my property. Like a whipped puppy he left. The other boys were ALWAYS respectful after to me after that. My daughter appreciated me doing that.

Just remember, you are becoming an adult now. If her mamma does not like you, then take a good look in the mirror. Usually women have a great sense of judgement so stop and find out why and learn something. Humbleness always over comes attitude.

geds · 07-22-2012, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by 76Highboy

That is well said IMO.

I remember that one boy came over and was leaning on my daughters car. He was all prepped with his shades on and there were about 4 or 5 other guys standing around him with my daughter present. All the boys were pretty much blue jeans and cowboy boots but Romeo was all jazzed up with his hair all perfect and his pants down to his butt and the gangster boy thing happening. I came out to meet the boys and when my daughter introduced me to them they were very polite until she introduced me to Romeo. As soon as she introduced us he says "Yo dude" out of the side of his head and would not give me the time of day. Quicker then a fart can jump out of a frying pan I confronted him military style and gave him a speech about respecting elders, then I kicked him of my property. Like a whipped puppy he left. The other boys were ALWAYS respectful after to me after that. My daughter appreciated me doing that.

Just remember, you are becoming an adult now. If her mamma does not like you, then take a good look in the mirror. Usually women have a great sense of judgement so stop and find out why and learn something. Humbleness always over comes attitude.

Are you being nice to me now?

I better look around....I feel an ambush lurking....

I'm glad your daughter appreciated your actions...

76Highboy · 07-22-2012, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by geds

Are you being nice to me now?

I better look around....I feel an ambush lurking....

I'm glad your daughter appreciated your actions...

No ambush on this thread. I just agreed with your comments.

geds · 07-22-2012, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by 76Highboy

No ambush on this thread. I just agreed with your comments.

Ahhh...the "on this thread" being the operative words.....

76Highboy · 07-22-2012, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by geds

Ahhh...the "on this thread" being the operative words.....

Well, ok.

sting75ray · 07-22-2012, 08:21 PM

Treat the girl and her mom with the utmost respect at all times. I am the proud father of twin girls and they will be 16 this coming January. One of them has had 3 boyfriends so far and while I did not care for the first one the other 2 are OK in my book. The one she has now just happened to stop by the night I was building the gun you see below in my sig pic. I told him that I was building it to protect my daughters with. The second boyfriend she had is like a son to me and will be from now on. Funny thing is they were both out here for the youth trap shoot today and we all had a great time.

Appliancedude · 07-22-2012, 08:40 PM

As the father of a almost 6 year old girl, I just received some good tips on how to handle the boys. Thanks gentleman and God help the boys who show up at my door

07-21-2012, 01:29 PM	#1
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07-21-2012, 01:37 PM	#2
gvw3 Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Chicago IL Area Contributor Posts: 3,259	Re: need advice She probably thinks all the guys are bad for her daughter. Try to get along with her. She most likely will never like you but that will make the girl only like you more. __________________ Criminals advocate stronger gun laws to foster a safer work environment. This limits their exposure to risk.

07-21-2012, 01:38 PM	#3
terryu1 Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: NE Pennsylvania Contributor Posts: 1,243	Re: need advice could be a long road but wita wortht while end. Main thing to remember is not to take it pesonally and get negative. Stay positive and make it your goal to prove her wrong. Find out what she likes and use it. ALL women like flowers. Get some even from grocery store or somewhere similar. No need to spend a ton of money. Its the thought. Go slow, stay positive and do not get mad, and be patient. It will not happen overnight. __________________ ARMED INFIDEL

07-21-2012, 04:03 PM	#6
stumpjumper Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: swflorida Contributor Posts: 654	Re: need advice better than her dad not liking you. be nice, open the car door for your girl when you pick her up. you know mom's gonna be ;looking out the window. __________________ after three rounds you're just making noise Guns have only two enemies rust and politicians

07-21-2012, 06:31 PM	#8
glens67 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Middleton, ID Contributor Posts: 951	Re: need advice Take a good look at your self in the mirror. Hat on backwards, and Pants/Shorts pulled half way down your butt. Do you drive a Van, with a bumper sticker, "If this Van's Rockin Don't bother Knocking". Do you drive one of those Import Cars with a Fart Can Muffler? If you can answer No then things are looking Good.. If yes to those above then GOOD LUCK PERIOD... __________________ The fish is rotting from the head down—all is not well at the top of the political hierarchy. "The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." Albert Einstein There is nothing more dangerous than a fanatic moron. Many problems we face today are there because people who work for a living are now outnumbered by those who vote for a living. Molon Labe μολὼν λαβέ A Deo victoria Glen

07-21-2012, 07:07 PM	#10
CCHolderinMaine Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Steep Falls, Maine Contributor Posts: 633	Re: need advice If you are a good person than that will be evident by your actions. The best way to prove to another that you're a "good" person is to be one.

07-21-2012, 10:28 PM	#11
Nut Behind the Gun Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: marion IN Posts: 16	Re: need advice i dont know __________________ Trap Boy ( Don't Push My Buttons)

07-21-2012, 10:38 PM	#12
jack404 Former Guest Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Australia Contributor Posts: 17,622	Re: need advice as a parent of daughters ( a scary one at that at the time ) its a protection thing , no-one is good enough and as a male myself , i know what young guys think of and act like .. her mother probably remembers too and we all want better for our kids than ourselves want to get her onside ? try this , my daughter husband did it to me he asked ," you dont like me much do you " i replied i only like folks who can take care of themselves and others he state d he could do that , but seeing he was so young he could always use some pointers Bingo , sold ... I'm a grandfather nowdays ... do similar find out what the deal is and ask them to advise you , once someone advises you they tend to lean towards you more its a psych thing good luck you go to church ?? take your GF ... make sure its good from the start .. Last edited by jack404; 07-21-2012 at 10:39 PM..

07-22-2012, 10:10 AM	#13
Nut Behind the Gun Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: marion IN Posts: 16	Re: need advice smart jack __________________ Trap Boy ( Don't Push My Buttons)

07-22-2012, 03:19 PM	#14
geds Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 3,706	Re: need advice As a father of a daughter - the biggest thing with getting under my skin is when the young man ignores me and my wife. He should go out of his way to greet us when he comes into our house to court our daughter. He doesn't have to like us, but he darn sure should show us respect! And contrary to many young men's opinions, the courting process and the first move in the selling process begins with the young man. As a parent, I don't have to like him and I can make life difficult for him. It it is his best interest to sell himself to us..... __________________ "Suppose you were an idiot...and suppose you were a member of Congress. But I repeat myself." - Mark Twain

07-22-2012, 03:55 PM	#15
firefighter1635 Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: US of A Contributor Posts: 1,837	Re: need advice Some very good advice here. As a father of a female in college I’ll jump in a bit. I'll never forget my daughter’s first "serious" relationship. I put quotes around serious because they think all of them are serious at the age of sixteen. This boy in her class was putting flowers on her car in the middle of the night for her to find in the morning as she went out to go to school, sweet huh? He finally got the nerve to ask her out. So she tells me and my response was I will meet him before he takes you out. So one Friday afternoon I hear this horrid sound coming from the driveway. It was the boy in his riced out civic. He comes to the door, my daughter let him in to introduce him to me and I see baggy pants practically around his ankles and ball hat turned sideways. My wife instantly went into damage control mode, she knew what was coming. We excused ourselves from the ladies to talk out in the garage. Basically I asked him WTF he was thinking coming to my house to pick up my daughter looking like that. I forgave him for his appearance but let him know it wasn't welcome in my house. We had a good talk IMO, I told him what I expected out of any young man that wanted to date my daughter and finished by telling him if he hurt my baby I’d kill him. The wife said I was too abrupt and almost made the boy pee his pants but he knew where I stood. Fast-forward a couple months later. The boy was well groomed and well dressed every time he came to the house. He was very polite to the wife and me. One night I couldn't sleep and was in the garage when I hear his car pull up to drop off my daughter. I started hearing all kinds of screaming and commotion. I look out the window to see him in her face hollering at her. I grabbed the shotgun and continued to watch. Around five minutes into this he rears back with his fist at her. That’s when I stepped out of the garage, racked the action on my shotgun, which made the both of them stop hollering and placed the muzzle under his chin. I asked him if he remembered the conversation we had a couple months ago. He replied yes sir and I asked him if he thought I was bluffing. He said no Sir and got in his car and left. There is a bit more to the story but that's the basics of it. So my advice to you would be to treat the girl like she's a queen, respect her parents, and have an appearance about yourself that personifies that and never, never, I mean NEVER take anything her parents say for granted.

07-22-2012, 04:06 PM	#16
howlnmad Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Harriman, Tn Contributor Posts: 2,566	Re: need advice I have 3 daughters and I hate all guys from the start. Don't get super offended and try to smooze her all at once. Just be yourself and proove her wrong. Be polite, be a gentlemen and do what's right. Don't try to impress her with BS, it don't fly. If you really like this young lady........ you'll know what to do. If dad ois cleaning a gun or loading mags when you come to the door........... don't just assume that it's a mind game. I know, I've been there and have actually run one out that thought it was. Tried to super impress me with his part time military ([I am in NO WAY selling the Air National Gaurd short) position and then told my daughter to hurry up and get her ass in the car. I told him that he might wanna hurry hurry up and get his out the door and that she'd be staying here. PERIOD! __________________

07-22-2012, 04:56 PM	#17
mogunner Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Eastern Missouri Posts: 1,024	Re: need advice My youngest kid is a girl, she was always embarrassed by my doing this but I took a list of "Ten rules to dating my daughter" off the internet and whenever she started dating a boy I had to meet him, and I handed him a copy of them. Since I open carry around the house from the time I get up to the time I lay down, it's always something that they notice right off! If he lasts past the first date, the next time he comes to pick her up I'll usually be cleaning the Saiga, with a 30 round magazine lying next to me. They pretty much pick up on my feelings right away. She has one now that's stuck around for the past two years, I'm going to take him out shooting here soon as it cools off a bit and let her outshoot him and see how he reacts to that...

07-22-2012, 06:16 PM	#18
gun-nut Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: ohio Contributor Posts: 931	Re: need advice I dont have any kids, but i will say i ran into them kind of moms before. Just show RESPECT! It will take time trust me, even after the girl and i broke it off we are still friends. To this day her mom will tolerat me hanging out but still dont care for me but has said that i do and did show respect and thats one thing she cant take from me. Now this was over 10 years ago when this took place so dont get your hopes to high that she will come around, because she my never. __________________ Don't retreat just reload.

07-22-2012, 08:21 PM	#24
sting75ray Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,086	Re: need advice Treat the girl and her mom with the utmost respect at all times. I am the proud father of twin girls and they will be 16 this coming January. One of them has had 3 boyfriends so far and while I did not care for the first one the other 2 are OK in my book. The one she has now just happened to stop by the night I was building the gun you see below in my sig pic. I told him that I was building it to protect my daughters with. The second boyfriend she had is like a son to me and will be from now on. Funny thing is they were both out here for the youth trap shoot today and we all had a great time. __________________ [IMG][/IMG]

07-22-2012, 08:40 PM	#25
Appliancedude Advanced Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: The true northern Cal Posts: 1,562	Re: need advice As the father of a almost 6 year old girl, I just received some good tips on how to handle the boys. Thanks gentleman and God help the boys who show up at my door __________________ It ain't broke it just lacks duct tape. The nice thing about opinions is everybody has one.