Love and marriage is about
when you listen to music you BOTH enjoy and compromise to listen to HER stuff and finding out it is actually enjoyable IF you take the time to LISTEN
when you find things to do together by inviting her to try some of your favorite things and YOU try some of hers (eg cooking)
when you share in the "women's work" just to give her a regular break in routine
when you get each other to SMILE to help each other get thru the day
when you decide it is not YOUR money but OUR money- major purchases and small irregular purchase decisions are shared hopefully BEFORE they are made but if not possible explan WHY the quick buy was necessary.
when you take turns writing checks to appreciate just how much is needed to run your household
when you and your spouse pick together what to watch but have times where you each watch what you want-peprhaps when the other is doing chores?
when no matter how grey, wrinkled, or depondent you love her as the first time you saw her in her wedding dress or OUT of it with your daily actions toward her.
when you REALLY see her strengths and take advantage of them to get the family unit moving in a POSITIVE direction