Sorry you're having so much trouble, Shooter.
But there is a method behind our madness.
The idea is that by categorizing our discussions, folks can find information about particular firearms and issues more quickly. It saves having to answer the same questions over and over. If you just bought a 1911, for example, you can easily find information related to 1911's in that forum, rather than having to wade through tons of General Discussion posts. If you have questions about reloading, there's the Reloading Forum. If you want a good joke, you know you can find one in the Pump House. If you want to b*tch about current affairs, you can find good discussions in Fire For Effect.
As for having to go through lots of forums to find current posts by your friends, here's what I do: There's a link called New Posts in the row of links above. When you click that link, it will bring up a list of every thread in every forum that has had a post made to it since the last time you visited. It's really easy to scan through that list to see which threads you might be interested in reading.