Are you to busy?

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  1. 358 winchester

    358 winchester New Member

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    I wonder how many people we walk, drive, or fly past each day that could use a little encouragement? How long does it take to say a kind word?
    We read or hear stories of how hard some folks are having it right now but it isn't us so we just tend to keep on going and not give it much thought. Now when the time comes that it is you or your spouse that has lost their job, their health insurance, their 401K was eaten up by the corporation you will be asking why hasn't something been done about all of this. What where you doing when the neighbor six houses away was in trouble? What will it take for You to stand up and say "Enough"?

    " what are you prepared to do about it now?"

    Just stirring the pot a little
     
  2. TranterUK

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    Wonderful 358, well said we need more of that. To give encouragement, a compliment here or there is free, and a little effort can go a long way.

    Mrs T saved a life in the last couple of days by going to visit a friend in hospital, really, without doubt. Her friend, also Brasilian was in great pain and having trouble communicating her symptoms. The Doctors were discussing all sorts of different possible caused and she almost yelled at them her friend had a lump, she knew it and it was very painful. Mrs T stood her ground until a specialist was called and they decided on an immediate op, without which the friend would have died.

    All for going to visit a friend in hospital...

    Sticks and stones may break our bones, but a word can turn someones life..I have done it myself once or twice.
     
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  3. oscarmayer

    oscarmayer New Member

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    stopped one day at the bottom of a expressway off ramp. at the bottom was a sad looking older guy. his clothes were dirty and torn. he held a sign saying help a vet and will work for food. i was moved. i stopped and handed him a 20 . the next week he was arrested. seems he was running a scam. the local newpaper showed him after a shift at the end of the ramp getting into a range rover and driving to his 400,000 home :(
     
  4. Very true words indeed, Tranter. As a teacher, I encounter that truth almost daily.
     
  5. 45nut

    45nut Well-Known Member

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    One day the wife and I were grocery shopping. I overheard a couple with two kids discussing the contents of their shopping cart. They were trying to decide what they had to put back to stay in their (apparently very meager) budget. From my quick scan, they only had about $40 worth of food in it. I slipped a $20 into my hand and gave it to the guy and they both nearly started crying. He said man I appreciate it, but I can't... I told him, don't worry, I've been there myself.

    That was one of the most rewarding moments of my life. Reminds me, I need to pay more attention in the grocery store these days.
     
  6. Suicide*Ride

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    358 winchester - Thank you dear sir, for this post.... from the bottom of my heart!

    Oscarmayer - Please don't let what happened w/ the old man sway your better judgement to offer someone some help.

    I'm a disabled vet (service connected) who's last visit to the VA hospital got only a laugh because of my yelping when lifting my hand to sign a document. Real funny to go through life feeling like a carving fork has been jammed into your back wilst doing any mundane motion, movement, or chore.

    Days when I can't pull up my pants, bend down to tie my boots, move wet laundry from the washer to the dryer, or clean myself after a bowel movement. I can usually get these chores done but not w/o yelping like a dog does w/ you step on his foot.

    I have too much pride to sit on a curb somewhere w/ my hand out.... although I have considered it once or twice. It took 4 1/2yrs. of trying to work for a living before realizing my back is truely screwed up beyond my pocketbook's ability to pay for the repairs.

    I've not got any money coming in, & am selling the last few items I hold dear to my heart (go look in the "for sale" section of this forum) to buy food & pay for my ISP/phone line.

    All I've got left in this world is this forum & a few "new" friends here to keep me sane....
     
  7. kutaho

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    That's why I live in a small logging town, pop. 4000. We haven't recovered from the crash in '80', but if something happens people will knock you're door down to help. And we always share food. Buy locale, buy American.
     
  8. Tony22-250

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    Its so bad west of Atlanta near the Alabama line there is NO WORK McDonalds didnt even hire me they were flooded with applications. The Honda plant, South Wire and other large factories either closed or let a bunch of people go. My Step Father lost his job working for an electrical supply company and also totaled his car. My mother could not support the family on her income alone so i quit my job (making $6.50 an hour) for a firearms manufacturing position (making $14 an hour) that was promised to me by the CEO but it never went through due to "production issues". during the time my mother was working, before she got let go also, we went making enough money to feed our family but we were making to much for food stamps....... We stayed in the house we had purchased in 06... for as long as we could until it was foreclosed on and we had to move from Temple to Kingsland where my step father got a job working for Lockheed Martian so i moved in with my father because there was no luck finding a job down there either (still waiting on a reply for some fabrication jobs). I am continuing to apply for jobs here in Snellville GA but this doesn't look to promising either sadly to say. Hard times is an understatement when you dont know if your going to eat tomorrow.

    All i can say is be thankful for what you have and dont take it for granted. Also if some one is in need do the best you can to help them.
     
  9. ampaterry

    ampaterry *TFF Admin Staff Chaplain* Staff Member Supporting Member

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    God does NOT judge us by the results of our actions.
    He judges us by the contents of our hearts.

    If you TRY to do good, if your INTENT is to do good, then you will be found good and faithful.
    If the result of your reaching out is just to swell the purse of a con-man, then HE will be judged harshly - not you.

    We do our best to put our resources where they will do the most good.
    That is our duty.
    Beyond that, we have no control - and we are not held accountable.

    And I am sure glad of this, too.
    I have tried to do good things SEVERAL times that ended up being a total disaster!
     
  10. FJF0311

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    Like 45 nut, I was at the pharmacy behind a older gentleman. When the Pharmacist rung up the total, he realized he did not have enough to cover it all. I could tell by his clothes, he was a blue collar work man. The kind that build this world we live in. A man like my father. He slid His medications back, and told the pharmacist he would just take his wife's. I walked up, and apologized for over hearing his conversation, and told the pharmacist that I would pay for his. He looked hard at me, then lowered his head and said "Thank you." I said it was not necessary, this is what people should do for each other.
    We don't need the government to do this for us. Because when they do, they do it poorly. If you see your fellow man needs a hand, lend it. I do not believe in handouts.But I will always find a way to help the truly needy.
    If we try, we can all get through this together. And be stronger for it. The government's help will only imprison us. But if we pull together, it will free us.
     
  11. ponycar17

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    I felt bad for my neighbor. I thought he may have lost his job, and thought about giving him some encouragement and possibly offering to help out to get the place in shape to be sold (food if needed), etc.... I talked to him a bit and realized that he was acting funny. I found out that he was selling his home but not because he had lost his job. He knows that I DESPISE people that lie to me about their intentions for the property I was going to buy. I've been screwed over on the same piece of property before. It turns out this guy built the house to make a profit but told me he wanted it for his family, etc.... I felt bad for him right up until the point where I saw his home on the market for $459,900... :eek: I can't stand a liar! :mad: I suppose what makes it worse for me is that this guy pretended to be ultra-religious type when I met him. That made me trust him more as a man of Christ's teachings. I find out that he's willing to lie or whatever necessary to seal his original plans... Christian teachings are going to the dogs. It's so hard for even Christians to discern honesty any more that it's no wonder the atheists mistrust us. :eek:
     
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  12. flannelman

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    Something I have figured out in life is that you really get it when you can be happy with less than what you have right now. As you may know I am on a severance package from my former employer and I'm finishing up my last semester at the university. I have a friend at church who has had some real hard times over the last year. I was visiting with him last month and he was having trouble geting paid for a job he had done and was worried about having food for his wife and daughter. I asked him what he needed and after hearing the list I told him to get ready to go to the store cause I was going to buy some food for him. I also had him come to my Mom's place to help plant potatos the following weekend. He wanted to do something for me to pay me back for helping him. Now I had no intention of asking him for anything but he wanted to do something so I suggested the farm work. It worked out great! He got what he needed for his family, I got some help, and we both got some time to fellowship togather. The main thing is to joyfully give to others. If you are truely happy with less than you currently have then you can give ease.
     
  13. 4EvrLearning

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    Thank you all for the heartwarming stories of giving; it does a soul good to see that there are still "real" folks out there who see a need, and fill it.

    I agree with ampaterry's statements wholeheartedly.

    For those of you who are struggling in a variety of ways...I pray that God will send help to you as only He can...and sustain you in the meantime. Our family has had times of being on the receiving end, and although it's humbling, it's also proven to provide some of the best memories as we look back and see God's hand of provision SO clearly!

    FJF...you're right...the gov't can't possibly do what a neighbor, stranger or family member can. It wasn't meant to. People need to know that other people care....that they're not alone. Y'all are inspiring! :)
     
  14. oscarmayer

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    ampaterry: very good post and i did not let the "jerk" who was scamming sway my judgement. i'm still a active member of my churh i volunteer time and give more than my fair share. i reach out and help those in need all the time because as you so stated it's what my intentions are that matter. if someone i help is a rat bastard thats on them.
     
  15. kutaho

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    You are a rich man, rich in the things that count.