There are two men who are a huge part of my life, one being an uncle who I hunt/trap with, we both love to cook for family parties and just hang out...The other is a friend of almost 20 years now, we've been through a lot together, I recall putting my life on the line for him and I know he would do the same for me, we also hunt and trap together and spend time just hanging out knocking back a few beers and shooting pool. Both of these guys are super smart, but for some reason they feel the need to be a bit blind to the fact that people know how to do the simple things in life without their help. I'll give two examples, both times I had finally gotten a belly full and said something about it. My uncle and I had just gotten through packaging a hog that we killed and he says to me as I get ready to wash up, "here's the hot side, just get the water what ever temperature you want it and there's the soap...." My response was that "I know how to wash my hands dude!" and it ended laughingly and all that, but I'm sure through the course of the hunt and the processing that I had heard about all I could stand and I really wish I had driven home the fact that it is starting to get real damn old. Another time, and most recent, I was helping my friend, we were driving through a town I was unfamiliar with so the "turn here and turn there stuff" is expected and certainly necessary, but later, on the way home I hit "Go Home" on the GPS and it was dark, so the fact that I HAD DIRECTIONS NOW was illuminating the interior and totally obvious...But it didn't stop my narrator friend...I put up with it until he says "just ease around this corner here" WTF? I thought my head was going to explode as I said "Dude! If I don't, we are going to plow through that freaking building!" Again the situation dissolves in laughter, but I'm left wishing that a point was made. I'm the type of person who will ask for help and opinions when needed, I'm really not afraid to ask, I would rather do something the right way, the safe way, and get done a soon as possible, maybe that's why I surround myself with intelligent people, but although I'm not the smartest person you will ever meet (or even close) I do know how to drive and I do know how to wash my damn hands. Do you think this problem is something that people cant control? I mean, I know they have been told in the past (by their wives) to "stop being bossy" so certainly they have an idea that what they are doing is silly, but perhaps they cant stop? I dunno... I am afraid that it will wind up eventually destroying a friendship...That's what I'm afraid of, because both of these men are good people, either one of them would come running, right now, at 11:30 at night if I picked up the phone with a problem and I'd do the same for them in a heartbeat, but I just wonder how long I can take it.