If I may say so with all respect, no doubt there are people like that, but to generalize to all "instructional people" is just plain hogwash. I'm one of those people. It's part of the reason I became an attorney, that way other people pay me to solve their problems for them. But in my experience, it's the people who are afraid they're not dominant and who see life as a tension between submission and dominance who want to characterize what I do as a dominance or control thing. But I have observed that there are lots of people who, because of their own psychological damage, can't help but see relationships in terms of dominance and control. And I have learned not to try to help people like that, because they're in victim mode and are like dogs that have been kicked once too often. Even when you try to be kind to them, they'll bite you. Or as Jesus put it, "cast not your pearls before swine, lest they trample your pearls underfoot and turn to gore you." My suggestion is, think about what people tell you; if they're right, do what they say - it's not a surrender of control on your part, it's an acquisition of control. You gain control of yourself because you're deciding what to do on the basis of the information you have available. And if it seems to you that they're wrong, then ask them why they think their way is best. Such people are trying to be of service, and you might as well make use of the servants God gives you. Trying to protect yourself from feelings of submission is a symptom of self-importance. Why not focus on whatever it is you're supposed to be doing, and get it done the best way you can? The only thing anyone can learn to control, really, is himself; but if he can learn to do that, he can have influence. And that's the best any of us will ever do.